Receiving the Mother - Ancestral Clearing

I wrote a long review on the forum about the experience of using two mandalas simultaneously Receiving the Father and Receiving the Mother.
https://forum.maitreyafields.com/t/receiving-the-father-ancestral-clearing-dm-audio/11188/16?u=hero
but it doesn't fit here, so I'm writing excerpts from it.

...Things with my mother were difficult. She was strict, controlling and emotionally cold. The entire female line in our family was like this - little warmth, almost no hugs, no softness. Women always dominated men and told them how to live. Growing up in this atmosphere, I constantly pushed back, fought for my place, and resisted everything she tried to put on me. And, of course, without realizing it, I chose a wife with similar strong energy...

Children are always loyal to their parents - especially the mother. What mother says becomes absolute truth for the child. Her view of my father became my view. And later, without noticing, it became my view of myself.

The first strong changes I noticed were in my wife. She always struggled with self-rejection and with accepting her feminine energy. She carried deep pain from her relationship with her mother, who passed away this spring. But I started seeing how her attitude toward herself, toward me, and toward men and women in general began to soften. She stopped resisting everything I say or do. The energy between us changed. Even the way she listens to me is different now. She stopped treating her father like a helpless child and stopped controlling him. And the most interesting part is that her father suddenly began taking initiative on his own, even though he’s now recovering after a hip replacement. Their conversations changed - now she often says things like, “This is his decision, I’m not interfering.” I never heard that before.

Then changes started happening in my parents. My mother’s old patterns began to surface - her self-hatred, her anger toward men, her emotional wounds. My relationship with my dad suddenly became warmer. He opened up. He started telling me things he’d been silent about for decades. I saw empathy in him that I had never seen before. At 72 he is now realizing things about his relationship with my mother, about her emotional coldness, about the things he never understood. Their relationship also became softer. Recently his brother died, and for the first time in a long while I saw them genuinely supporting each other.

And of course, all of this reflected on me and my marriage. My wife and I feel like we’re finally on the same wavelength. There is so much warmth and humor between us. Problems don’t feel like problems anymore - just experiences we go through together. We’ve known each other since 1999, been married for 14 years, and for 10 of those years it was really hard between us. We were very close to divorce. And now there is harmony, real understanding, and complete absence of conflict, even though we spend so much time together. The biggest change is that we stopped projecting our childhood wounds and our attitude towards parents onto each other. That alone is huge.

These two mandalas influenced everything - my relationship with myself, my connection with my parents, their relationship with each other, my wife’s relationship with her father, and our relationship as a couple. I can feel our whole family space becoming warmer, softer, more loving. There is more care, more understanding, more heart.

During my long self-healing journey one thing I understood for sure: healing always starts with your relationship with your parents. When you judge them, you judge yourself. When you don’t accept them, you don’t accept yourself, because you are their continuation. And if you don’t receive energy from your parents - especially from your mother - you will struggle to receive anything in life: love, money, support, opportunities. If you don’t receive energy from your father, it becomes harder to feel strong, confident, and secure in yourself - like you’re missing the inner support that helps you move through life with certainty.

Everything starts there.

If someone has problems in self-realization, relationships, in self-worth, in receiving, in money, in love, in feeling safe and secure - I genuinely believe the very first step should be healing the relationship with the parents. I honestly don’t know a faster tool for transforming so many areas at once than these mandalas.

If I were beginning from zero, I would start with two things: healing self-love and healing the relationship with the parents. And I would probably add some cleansing as well.

because first you need to build a solid inner foundation, and only then everything else in life starts growing naturally on top of it. …because nothing shapes a person’s life more than their relationship with their parents - how they feel about them, how deeply they accept the energy that comes from them, and whether they can stop judging them and finally let this con...

I had a very interesting healing experience with this one. I was curious what emotions would surface while using this and the predominant one was: Jealousy! Which totally surprised me. Perhaps I was jealous of my mom, because she received the affection that I craved from my father, which treated me poorly. But another thing that it could be (since it deals with healing the ancestry and inherited emotions) is my mom's emotions of jealousy. She recently confided in me that she was engaged to someone who treated her like crap and had a "roving eye" (always looking at other women). Now I'm wondering if that life event could have been transferred to me, because I remember getting absurdly jealous over everything when I was with my first boyfriend (and continued on in my other relationships). Like so overwhelmed with jealousy that I couldn't even think straight. It was scary! Now everything has disappeared. Something came up where I thought I would feel this emotion again and I was sort of bracing myself for it, but it never came! I was very surprised. Thank you so much for this wonderful healing opportunity!

I use both Father and Mother, and I must say it works for how I see and interact with both sides of my family, including parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and literally everyone. I love how much maturity those fields can bring in such a short time. I see things the way they are, no sugar coating, but also not salt on my wounds. I can enter a neutral state very easily.

It gives me a very good balance between nurturing others and receiving support (I was a chronically hyper-independent woman). I had no idea that it would affect me that much. So happy to work more with those fields.

Experienced healing within my relationship with my mother almost right away. When I meditated with it, I could see different generations of mothers past, and then wrapping their arms around me.